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Love Builds Safety: Nurturing Trust in Families and Communities with Joss Cambridge-Simmons
What happens when love leads the way in childcare? Joss Cambridge-Simmons, founder of six-time award-winning Jossie Care, takes us on a journey through his 18 years as a male nanny breaking barriers in a female-dominated industry.
From the moment Joss begins sharing his story, you'll feel his infectious passion for creating safe, authentic spaces for children. As a Black man in childcare, he brings a unique perspective on representation, challenging outdated gender norms, and what he calls "decolonizing love" – breaking away from societal constructs that limit who can provide nurturing care.
Joss reveals how children show him their rawest emotions – the ones they don't display at school or elsewhere – and how he meets these moments with grace rather than control. "I'm not trying to win these kids," he explains. "I'm trying to aid these children in working with them in a way that benefits them longer." His approach transforms not just the children, but the parents who witness this different model of care.
You'll discover practical wisdom for childcare providers, from starting each day with gratitude to finding your supportive village. Joss emphasizes the crucial importance of self-care: "I can't go and give the level of care I need to give if I can't give the level of care I need to give myself."
Whether you're a childcare professional seeking to enhance your approach, a parent curious about different caregiving styles, or someone interested in how love can transform relationships, this episode offers heartfelt insights that will stick with you long after listening. Subscribe to hear more conversations like this, and visit AdventureNannies.com/Summit-Sessions to join our next live webinar!
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Speaker 2:Welcome to today's Summit Session. My name is Regan Fulton, I am the Marketing Director for Adventure Nannies and I'm going to be the host of tonight's session. Today we are so excited to have an amazing topic that is so important how love can build safety within our communities and relationships. We have an incredible guest here with us. Joss Cambridge Simmons, the founder of Jossie Care, is not only a longtime child care professional and community advocate, but he is a man who truly lets love lead the way. With 18 years of experience walking alongside families, Joss has cultivated a deeply authentic, heart-centered approach, rooted in his Blackness, which has helped him build a six-time award-winning child care business. He brings a unique blend of presence, compassion and steadfast belief in love as a transformative tool. So get ready to be inspired and connected, and truly with what matters, as we explore leading with love and challenging old systems and finding healing and grace. Welcome, Chas. I'm so excited to have you here.
Speaker 3:Thank you for having me, it's just one village to the other right now, isn't it? You all have separate villages and you've just become one Very reflective of the clan mission support children and support families. Everyone has a different way of doing it, but the mission is the mission for all of us. That's where we align the most, where I knew of adventure nannies from many, many moons ago. That's why, when I tagged it today, I mentioned the world-renowned adventure nannies, because to me, they should be bigger than they are. They should have a bigger platform than they are. The voice is amazing, but it needs to be seen by more people because the work they do to support nannies in being seen, being heard, being valued, being paid well and the authenticity where I've seen how much they support people and being their true, their true, authentic selves. Being from London, conversations around race and gender are something that is done in a polite manner and to not be too in your face when, eventually, 90s are just in your face with it and understand the current conversations around race, gender, masculinity and femininity and are afraid to be at the forefront of these conversations, putting people like me in a place to have conversations about race, gender equality and the specifics that align with all the deeds within our child care world all over the world. So in saying that, guys, I'm joss cainwood simmons, a teacher of love and the founder of jossie care, six-time award-winning child care service. I'm a man from the village and what that village looks like for me is love, support, passion, belief, authenticity, growth, turmoil because life isn't linear and life isn't always simple fuddles. And also a village of trauma, because we've all been through what we've been through in life. But all of those intricate things have led me to become a man that leads with love and is able to immerse himself in spaces with children and families and is able to become just a vessel for these children. And I say resource because I've learned over time that love is a resource that us don't know that we need until we need it. So Jossie came with the resource of love that families don't realize they need until it enters the building. They've realized that. Well, we never knew we needed Joss and how that looks for the children is me being a safe space for these children.
Speaker 3:For me, as a black man and as a male educator, is I get every side of their emotions and every version of their emotions and the emotions they don't show at school, because what I've learned 9 out of 10 children mask. It's not just a thing of children on what we call in London spectrum, it isn't just children having the spectrum mask. I've let nine out of 10 children sometimes 10 children mask their emotions and it's their caregivers and their parents that get the brunt of their biggest, most turbulent, raw emotions Absolutely the emotions I know they don't portray at a school or nursery is what I get. I did not want to sit down and have dinner. There's also no rules here, so we don't sit and have dinner. We sometimes have dinner whilst we're eating. We sometimes eat dinner under the table because sometimes I just want them to eat, but then I have to remix it and realise I don't want to see it as a battle, because battles are to be won.
Speaker 3:I'm not trying to win these kids. I'm trying to aid these children in working with them in a way that benefits them longer. It suits my ego and has me in a place as an adult where I'm being heard and seen and my words being followed through by children. No, I need my work to be challenged. I take the deep breaths and for me to work out. Is this the job I really want. Like, how do I do this?
Speaker 2:I love. That is so incredible. You want them to feel safe with you. So, like you just told us a bit about, like your philosophy, how you handle both. Tell us about, like your childcare journey how did you get into being a nanny, how did you fall into this and how did you know a little bit how you fell into this philosophy.
Speaker 3:When you arrive at a family party and your favourite cousin walks in and you're like, oh my God, that's Cuddy. A lot of us educators have arrived with a great energy and a great essence. How I arrived here is I was loved well, so I could love well, and it's only because I come from a village of where I'm loved, I'm valued, I'm appreciated. For my child it wasn't as happy as it sounded because there was trauma, there was domestic violence through the morning, there was a number of stuff that didn't align with who I am now, but everything that I witnessed and went through as a child aided me to be able to be gentle and be soft as an adult. I wish it wasn't. Obviously none of us. If any of us could have turned back time, you would have created the witness, what we've witnessed, to add the experiences we experienced. But if you look at who we are now, I'm not the usual I am now and it's only because I've been able to be in spaces with children and families where my understanding of my own personal journey with my own trauma and my own childhood put me into a space of wanting to understand trauma more on a professional level. So I knew how to knock trauma down and I knew how to not let my traumas lead.
Speaker 3:I knew how to knock them out because a lot of educators are in this space and normally say I do this work because I've been through it too, and that's like me saying, hey, I love serving because Sarah's been through something. That's the worst reason to date somebody because you both been through the same excuse my language, but BS. That's what you call trauma bonding. Educated, the trauma bonded with this role. And I see it in their practice. And how that looked for me is over the years. I started off working in nurseries because I had two little brothers and my mum helped me find a job in a nursery setting and it was based on me working in nursery when I realized I really enjoy supporting children under five. Also, whilst working in nurseries, I was aware of the lack of many childcare.
Speaker 2:The opportunity even make sense to you Because I love so much of what you do in encouraging other men to get into the field as well.
Speaker 3:I wasn't aware of it, and it's also why it's imperative that I have to let everyone know that representation is important. It matters. I'm an 80s baby. I was brought up on tools like Honey I Drop the the Kids, danny Dayshare, mrs Doubtfire Three Men and a Baby Kindergarten Cop. All of these films had men going above and beyond. Mrs Doubtfire, the dad changed.
Speaker 2:He might not have started as the best, but he learned to right.
Speaker 3:Yes, and for me, when John Travolta volta became a stepdad, that wasn't his fate. But and for me, seeing this and having my dad around and my godfathers and also having a stepdad, I only ever saw men that showed up for me. So I didn't know what it wasn't to not show up. So when I'm saying as a teenager, I'm not understanding that this is, that, isn't a job that men are meant to not do. Because I was raised up on tv, watching tv shows, practice of bel-air. Uncle phil was everyone's father, like absolutely uncle phil was everybody's want to be that and it's only because I saw all of this why I only saw men in a nurturing, present, consistent space. So when I stepped into working in nurseries, me seeing that transcended into me, being consistent and showing up. Because I didn't know how to space of 18 years I worked in nurseries as a nurse manager, room lead, these educator, which is a nursery teacher, kindergarten teacher. I worked in care homes with children, that in between foster homes or in between their parental home and now, under the government's legislation, living in care homes with carers. I worked in family and baby units where the government side person moms and dads to come and get parent coaching in a Saturday baby group. Basically Well, if Jossie care came about. Marketing wise was where I've been DJ to 13. There was kind of like a real marketing mindset of you want everyone in the local area to know that you're a DJ. So even if they don't use you, I was told to you want everybody in North London to know that you DJ. What happened is every local food shop, every off-lacers, every corner shop, every cafe, every barbershop had my business card in there. And this was before I even knew what was coming to me 10 years later. Well, I was adamant that I want to be, regardless of whether they're going to book me or not. 18 years later, people see me all around about oh, you're still doing it, yeah, I am. I was like, yeah, 18, 19. And that's how Jossie Care came about.
Speaker 3:And Jossie Care also came about off the back of me wanting to be a nanny and never being aligned with. But I did make white women a handbag full of gifts. I don't turn up to houses with toys, I'm not that educator, but educating is what my biggest resource for these kids is. My presence and my love transcends. And what's happened over time is I've been able to be in these spaces and embed myself into children's play areas. I've always been a bit of rebel. I've never really liked rules, so if I see everyone going that way, I want to go the other way. Why not? I want to get the results, obviously, of getting. And I'm also very big as I'm older now I'm very big with analyzing and dismantling social constructs.
Speaker 1:So the way you might do something.
Speaker 3:I'm going to find a different way to do it and reconstruct it. And what's happened is I had a business card with School of Trustee Care. I was given their cards and there was also nannying and babysitting for families that I met. But I was also trying to go through agencies in London and just all over the world and find jobs, and it was 18, 19, 20, 21, etc. A lot of agencies would reply back saying, hi, we don't have any jobs for men. So even then, agencies were seeing nannying as a space where you have just specifically for women. I'm knocking on the door and they won't let me in. So I created Jossie Care and Jossie Care became my own door, my own way into a childcare industry, which I've now become who I am within the space and also I've got this far being my most authentic self as a black male as well, which is highly sought for. But also it's still not the norm in 2025. I'm still an anomaly. I'm still seen as oh, is that what you do? Like? Oh, wow, you're still having conversations where we're trying to get more men into the industry.
Speaker 3:Or, over the years, when society changed, people started giving me jobs. I just was applying for jobs. I just wasn't getting them because the job just wasn't for me. That's why Adventure Nannies made me feel safer. It wasn't a no because of me. It might be a no because of my CV and I just wasn't afraid for that family Down to my gender or down to my race, where some agencies have made it an issue of race or gender. They haven't seen the issue, but I saw the issue an issue of race or gender. Then. They haven't seen the issue, but I felt the issue. Adventure Nannies and my man and Me by James from James who you've met through agencies that have really supported me on this journey as a male nanny and obviously pushed for parents to choose, to ask men, because we're still not chosen. But it also put me in the space of nobody chooses you, you choose yourself. But it also put me in the space of nobody chooses you choose yourself.
Speaker 2:Yes, I love that you choose yourself. Oh, that is so beautiful. We love when we get nanny applications.
Speaker 2:We love to have you on our rosters and families have their own hiring decisions, but we always encourage families to hire based on the resume. Exactly like you said based on the resume. I am curious we at adventure nannies do not use the term nanny. I know that's a term that gets floated around. Some nanny is not a gendered term, so we don't. There's no need to have a separate term and we very much would never market specifically no mannies or only mannies. You know nannies important, so I was curious what you're feeling if you do use the term, how you feel about it.
Speaker 3:It's funny I was told like little rumors that like as an American people might believe that all English people drink tea.
Speaker 2:We throw it all in the harbor, so we got to keep it.
Speaker 3:There's been a rumor in the UK that in America the term mayonnaise is illegal.
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 3:Okay, it is not. Yeah, been a rumor in the UK that in America the term nanny is illegal.
Speaker 2:no, okay, yeah no, not illegal at all. Honestly, there's very little regulation actually around the nanny industry at all. The UK has much more than the US does, for sure. Yeah, that is so interesting. No, not illegal. But at least at Adventure Nannies we do not use the term because male nannies are nannies.
Speaker 3:My counter argument is or the individuals don't believe they have a gender. Would you call them when they become a nanny? Would you gender-specific those individuals into saying you've got to call yourself this or call yourself that, when they don't refer to themselves as a male or female or they're non-binary, they still give a great level of childcare. But it's also showed me the lack of representation for transgenders and non-binaries and LGBTQ community as well, how much they're not seen and heard in this space and alongside the fact that we have a lack of men in the conversation and our men in childcare isn't spoken on consistently enough. No, I don't have an issue with what I'm called, but I do dislike it when I say I'm a nanny and people correct me saying I'm a nanny. I'm not fussed. I've also been a nanny for so long way before the gender specifics came in. I was getting booked to do childcare Way before it become a trait of what's your gender. Yeah, it's funny because sometimes the children correct me, but that's because the children in society will construct what isn't?
Speaker 3:And then they'll be like I had a child get upset and cry in a park where my kids are playing with this child they just met. I introduced myself to the kids to say, hi, I'm Josh's son, the kid's nanny. You know, I had myself letting you be a back and forth with like a 10 year old because I'm 10. While she was so steadfast and so strongly believed that I could not be a nanny, she cried and her dad was so triggered by her being upset I don't think he knew how to show up for her in that conversation.
Speaker 2:They just stalled off and went home because I'm sure he didn't want to make you feel like and he did, of course didn't know that and then that also seen some of the conversation and he's trying to have his daughter not say, to say anymore what they've left in them.
Speaker 3:My child, my kids, you know, ask me questions around. What led that? Why was she upset, and why do people feel men can't look after us just like them about the fact that dad looks after them and I'm a man that's like their dad, but I'm not their dad?
Speaker 2:sometimes the hardest part with those little ones is not, you know, kind of explaining why you do things differently without putting those ideas in their head. So you speak. You know a lot of challenging old systems in a practical sense. How can you know love? How you know like, how does love dismantle those systems? We've spoken a lot about like being a man in the industry and how you are leading that way and I love how much you are you know in terms of dismantling systems in general, especially through the kids. How do we do that and what are the new norms that you see? You know afterwards, what is your ideal of like, what those that 10 year old child sees you?
Speaker 3:because my new answer to that is decolonizing love. We do that. I've realized how much a lot of us are comfortable with a social construct that benefit us and that's the challenge. And it's very hard to tell someone that you know what that isn't the best way to do it, when what they've been doing for how many years has worked for them and they've got a house, they've got money, they've got a job it's benefited them so much. It's like the whole conversation about gender roles, yeah, and gender roles within the realm of dating and relationships is where it benefits the people that believe there should be gender roles. But at the same instance there's misogynism, there's control and there's less advocacy and there's misogynism, there's control and there's less advocacy and there's less consent. But because in that space they still feel safe and seen and heard, the misogynism for them is just not misogynism for them to be okay with until it isn't.
Speaker 3:And when I say decolonizing love is breaking away from societal constructs and societal norms of what we see and view love to be within adult relationships. And then when we look at that and break down some adult relationships and take away the misogynism, the toxicity, the lack of men that aren't consistent and safe men all over the world, because the issue of unsafe men all over the world is a fact. That's when the conversation of how do we support our kids in doing this, in doing, and how that looks for me, is having more conversations about the men that the right thing create, the right choices, are emotionally available, emotionally present, mostly consistent, soft, gentle. Because if you look online, the conversations around the men that don't do everything, it's conversations that are going viral and we're liking them, we're showing, and no one's conversations around the men that don't do everything. It's conversations that are going viral and we're liking and we're sharing, and no one's talking about the men that do. This isn't about applauding men for doing their minimum and doing what they should do, but having conversations on the positives that men do, the positive men that are out there doing this stuff, not to shed light on them, to make them any bigger than they are, but to counter the conversation that's completely opposing against these men Thinking thrive how they see online, in the sphere of online mail I do mail, I hate that term, it's reflective.
Speaker 3:Coming back to it now is there's not many dads that I have met that haven't agreed with me when I said fatherhood, be showing up as a parent doing the parent stuff, having a tea time in the garden with your toddlers who can see your toddlers about changing nappies, because every time you go changing nappy they run away because they don't want to be changed. They're busy. Supporting children's emotions isn't specific to you as a father. The parents also have to understand. There's parents that don't receive the title of mum or dad due to choices that he I think it's he she or they they would refer to. There's conversations that also need to be inclusive.
Speaker 3:All versions of humans in the space of so when I am talking to fathers and I ask them, how has masculinity been changed for you by fatherhood? And they said they never knew they could be so emotionally available because they was. But as a parent, there's another ounce of emotion that comes with being a parent. You have to dig deeper and pull through, and there's also parents that are doing this alone and doing this by themselves. My dad was just the one other alone in the house, with two, three, four kids, and that's why a lot of it now for me on Instagram called Raising Me and Mine. Oh, my goodness, rais, raising me and mine. So, raising me and mine. I love that. They spoke today about a conversation where parents pitch it. The mums within their groups pitch in. How is Cardinal going for them? I'm here to support everyone, if I can, because I do childcare how I support. But I've said all I can say is do all with grace, take your time. Grace is a luxury we all get to have at times. For those parents that are doing it alone, what's grace? If I don't do it, who's doing it? Yeah, who's giving them grace?
Speaker 3:When I come into work, I've learned, I know, I tried to know all the parents how they are, because majority of parents have lost it, whether it's mum and dad or one parent in the house. 20 parents have had the sleepiest night with their kids all over the world Me walking in fresh haircut, colorful jumper, feeling top of the world, feeling great, all this great energy, and they're just tired of drinking coffee waiting to get an asker to work. I just thought, hi guys love you, rather than to trigger a question of how are you? Because I've also realized how tricky that question is, because sometimes, as a parent, regardless of your financial space in life, you don't know how you want time to sit down and think about how you want in the middle what you just said about the way you walk in and just like, hey guys, I'm here.
Speaker 2:I can't imagine, as a parent who does not have their own nanny, the relief and, like the, that is the work of nannies that I believe is so beautiful and so impactful, not only for the children but the parents. What you just said about what you do for the parents and coming in and just being there and being able to let them step away and give, you're giving them grace. You're giving them the space to be able to cultivate that grace that they need to have for their kids when they come back.
Speaker 3:At the end of the day and, like you said, not everybody has that so beautiful, the way that you do that for the families, that you can impact, yes, and spread that love and also it's learned, because I've got a lot of friends that are mums, that have got godchildren, who are amazing mums, and I've known them over the years and just being in the space also learned how triggering the thought of a mother and the years for mums that have been constantly let down by men. Because, like I said, parenting puts you in spaces where you have to face things, where you might go to a baby group and you've got a bunch of mums in there that have all stay-at-home mums, that amazing buggy, every young one to take, or two of them like buggy carry yark, so lululemon and just looking on top of the world with twins. I know how triggering that'd be and know how much mums don't go to baby groups because of this. So it's made me be very careful of what language I use when talking to parents and language I use in this space, because one you never know what someone's going through in regards to whether they're early or not Within this parenting space. Sadly, the world isn't made to support parents, to be parents. The world's set in a way that parents have to go out and thrive outside of the household before they can thrive inside the household, and so when I come in.
Speaker 3:I'm very mindful of when I come in and the belief I give parents, let alone. They often ask me like how do you do it, joss? How are you so positive? How do you not get so triggered, how do you not get so annoyed when our children say oi to you rather than say your name, and the mum and dad in the first place say something I've heard you. I just respond differently to. That Works for us because the parents don't feel the way to respond. How they respond and how I respond doesn't no longer trigger them to make the fucking athlete's breakfast as just. But the parents have now given themselves a more graceful understanding because of the approach I had with their children.
Speaker 3:Even this scenario recently at work, where a little one wanted to go and do something, he said you can't do it anymore. The transitioning change happened quite rapidly. So I understand their grievances, but it was kind of a. It was a no and what's happened is her and dad are in the kitchen and it's like a standoff because she's trying to escape the house. The dad, you have a. See yourself as a parent go from calm to calmer. Solarius is becoming more and more triggering and I think when, as parents, you often remember how you was raised and how you was approached in this Solarius, but it's difficult to unlearn what you've been told to do or how you've been raised yourself. So it is that you were shaking, but in the midst of your shaking you become more calm. And it wasn't a, it wasn't that anger that brings out a calmness and brings out a silence.
Speaker 2:Scary anger. No, it was a calmness that he's working.
Speaker 3:He's working through this. You won't understand where she's come from. I've also come into support but I don't want to overstep, because when you're halfway through de-escalating something, as an adult I don't want to step in and undo the work you've just put in, but I want to be there as a supportive voice because we are a team, one team, one dream, and we both work. We both are the same responses to her become and we both had the same responses to her becoming softer. Then I said to her but I fully understand how upset you are because I know how much you wanted to go through it. I fully understand we love it.
Speaker 3:It's your routine in your head. It's like this is what I'm doing, this is why I've got this, but please, we've said no for a reason that pertains to you being safe and you being well and you being happy a long time, rather than you going and it not working the way it should go. So if you have a shower, remember what I said about having showers. Sometimes showers can wash away how you feel. So that came in the shower. We were just like she had it in her to resolve and stuff, and then second shower I've got to go home. The granddad was there. Granddad was so triggered he left the house. We got home, dad walked back downstairs to get a drink or whatever. He tapped me on the shoulder and said you're not, because we both knew how hard that was.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but then also saw how you both showed up the way that she needed you to. Yes.
Speaker 3:And I think, lastly, I also know how much men in this space don't want to be the constant disciplinarians or the ogres, so to speak, where people often from the time of childhood, be like I need childcare, I need some of my kids to listen to your whole life. I work with loving gentleness and these children who thrive around it. It's a longer process but it benefits them long term because I don't have to shout for my children to listen to me. They don't listen to me, but we can read it back in eventually and we have a conversation about it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, Because we should all have the space to be able to have our feelings.
Speaker 3:I I love men in general and I want the best for us all over the world, but I also know how much as men we let down, we let down society. So I don't want to be the first man to break any of these young girls strong willingness or trust because sadly that is to come. There's men in her life that she might meet outside the house that might disappoint her and I also want to support my little girls in knowing how to deal with disappointment when it comes to men and knowing that there are, even if one, once they do come upon that disappointment that there is another, that is not the only thing that exists.
Speaker 2:There is good men, there is gentle. I love that I, as you were telling that story, I was curious do you have any tangible tips for, like, how you show up? You know you talked about showing up. Is there anything that you do as like a ritual or as like routine that nannies can take away and do themselves to help them come into a space every day and work with that calm and love-led approach? Is there anything like that you do that you could pass along as a tip?
Speaker 3:one thing I do daily on my spotify. I've got a playlist on spotify called mornings of gratitude, so I have a playlist of music for me that's just positive. Great vibes helps me start my day. And if I don't show up throughout the day and I have a somewhat bad day, my morning when work, I show up for myself and I play my playlist and I make my bed, Cause they're little little steps. They look on my, they look where I get paid to show up for people my job so and I have to show up for people irregardless of anything else.
Speaker 3:I see friends and family. I have a lot of space and time for myself. I've been DJing for years. Djing is a hobby but also a job, but it's something that fills up my cup and it's something that's totally, completely different from childcare. Yes, I've got a sub stack called Just Choose Love. I have a lot of outlets and space, but I've got a sub stack called Just Choose Love.
Speaker 3:I have a lot of outlets of space, but the biggest for me is stillness and doing nothing. I'm doing nothing and I need to come down because we're busybodies, Great at taking care of people. I'm an amazing childcare worker because I take care of my own child and it's difficult but it's imperative because I can't go and give the level of care I need to give if I can't give the level of care I need to give myself. That's why the little gifts I get from my family for Christmas and my birthday because they realise I'm so big on self-care and they get me vouchers for the local wellbeing shop Aftershaves, facial creams, bath salts for our wellbeing We've also realised how imperative it is to us as well.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Because we need it. Mum goes soundbathing. She books me a sound bath session. Lastly is sometimes ask yourself your why your calling might have no longer be your calling, which is fine. You might have fallen off with it, and all good things, all things come to an end to start better beginnings. I don't be afraid to take some time out and say I don't want to do this anymore. And also something that I struggled to find. But I find a village within this educational nanny world where I've got superb nanny friends and they're grateful. It's probably. I know how hard it's been for me to have made friends in this space the day. So I've got friends, but friends that I can talk to daily, that I can work with. I've got the religion too, but I would like a bigger village, but I'm grateful for the village I have in, absolutely yeah.
Speaker 2:I think that's the question Absolutely. I love this stillness.
Speaker 1:We're going to have to get that link to the playlist and we'll add it to the show notes for the episode.
Speaker 2:So anybody listening to the replay can go find it. Since I'll point your stories because that's a great I love and you're a dj, so I'm sure the playlist is just incredible. I'm super excited to give it a listen. Let me look at we do have a couple questions. So we've got about 15 minutes left the question and, kimberly, I'm going to ask you to clarify oh, and she's gone, darn it. Just to ask if we could put the name of the group, and I missed it when it came through, so I don't know what group, what we were talking about when she said that. I think it was raising me and mine.
Speaker 3:Okay, raising the Instagram page because it's called raising me and mine okay and I will get all of these links.
Speaker 2:I will get all the links from the pages that we talked about anything Joss mentioned here, and I will put it in the show notes to make sure that everybody can find those pages that you suggested. So I would love and you've told some amazing stories today, but in your 18 years of experience is there one story in your childcare that really just stands out as a really impactful moment or someplace that you know really exemplified the love-led approach and what you do?
Speaker 3:Recently it was Father's Day and I think last year it happened. I mentioned to all the dads Happy Father's Day, my friends and dads, all the dads I work with with. And then my dad last year told me I could promise that here, because my dad knows what I do, that's what I do. But you don't sometimes realize that parents might really see the value what you're doing and my dad's saying I know you're adapting these kids just and it's beautiful, because my dad was also supportive of my stepdad in my life as well. So it goes without saying. But the biggest was this year. I've seen the kitchen at work, cooking as we do because we're chefs, we're all chefs and you're the one doing some work on the table, youngest, because I can't be doing, I'm just making a picture for mummy, because I miss mummy. It's mummy time right now. I said okay, she comes to show me. After. I said I look what I did. What does that mean?
Speaker 3:It's a father's day again card. I was pretending because you're not daddy, but you're like daddy. And I was like it's daddy day number two for you, because you're not daddy but you're a man and you look after us and you said our words because you're so soft. I talk to my kids about softness, that I'm soft with them, and even sometimes she said to me, josh, you're not being soft, that's ugly grumpy. I said, okay, I'll work on that. But knowing that she sees me as another man in her life, with her dad and her granddad, and valued you enough to write me a card that no one's asked her to give, no one's asked her to do this, and dad was like super over the moon, beautiful Mum wanted to cry. I nearly cried and that was.
Speaker 3:I think that's it because I also want men, want these children to be able to have men in their lives that are solid, that are consistent, that are safe spaces, and that's what I've become for the village of children. So what Jiva's done, I had to be in this today. I've done enough. And I think also with these little children, also with these little children, to see someone that looks like me and have the body they have for me is even more imperative, because staying attached, that it's in the media all over the world isn't aren't always the best. So I've now abolished that, because whenever we see my friends that look like me, the girls say hi quick and be like that was your friend that we saw the other day and be chilling with my friends and play, and so they should be. But sometimes, if children aren't spread to certain cultures, they're going to be not Absolutely.
Speaker 2:That's incredible. So you've talked a lot about your approach and how the love-led approach impacts the children, but it also impacts the parents that you work with, and I think that your journey is so incredible and has expanded what's next? Because clearly your impact is going farther than just the children and the families you work with. We love having you here speaking, sharing with other nannies. There's got to be. Where is the love-led approach going? How are you going to share it with the world? Because we, you know it needs to be out here and I want to know what's next. You know that.
Speaker 3:I'm amazing with Frederica and for me, what's next is I've been approached by an amazing publishing house. When I told the children I'm writing a book, they was like who are you with? I said name. They're like who? They meant Harry Potter. I've got a Harry Potter book out. So the practice that I've created to support educators and families to raise children basically is based on my ethos of love and love, safety and understanding. As a performer, I also what I also did was the proposal that I've got me in the press edited it, but it keeps to use. I think we're also creating self-published authors because we can get them to publish their books and their amazing books.
Speaker 2:Absolutely. That's how we published our books, so if anybody else wants to get their story out, I am so excited to get this book. Make sure you share it with us. If you're listening to this episode years down the line, we'll add Joss's book in here once it's published. This philosophy and, like I said, you're doing a great work within the community that you're in, but I am so excited that you know Welcome Across the Pond, getting to share it with our audience, to continue to share this amazing message with the world. So I'm so excited. If we have any other questions, go ahead and drop them in, but I don't see any in the chat. So is there anything last minute that you want to leave the audience with before we wrap it up?
Speaker 3:Do your best to practice being present for yourself. The more present you are for yourself, the more present you can be for the edge of that age or be a family, friends or work. And there's also a song I'm going to find. It's called Worth Ethic A lady called Toni and it's worth ethic. It talks about manifesting your worth and knowing your worth and acting within your worth. And that's my new Alarm Clock song. It's an amazing song, worth ethic Beautiful.
Speaker 2:Thank you so much. We will get all of the links of everything. I'll poke you and get all the playlists and all of the songs and all of the amazing pages that you shared and we will share all of your information. Thank you for being here, everybody please make sure you go follow jossie care and what's your handle name again share your handle for everybody.
Speaker 3:We're back instagram. Jossie care chose love because love is a twist and and that's it.
Speaker 2:Amazing. Thank you so much for being here. Have a great day. Bye.
